Every lesson I learn in life always ends up having the same general theme to it… When I do what I want, things turn out much better for me.

Now this works I think because I’m mostly a decent person. I don’t really think that deep down, anyone’s version of “doing what they want” would start out by them wanting to do bad things. The world is a fucked up place, full of judgmental and insecure people trying to fit us into one box or another. Each time our unique shapes are forced into a certain mold, it wears us down, dissolvesย our natural instincts, and stifles our spirits.

I think most people want to be successful, have good intentions, be strong and help others be strong, follow their spirit instead of others’ judgements, and most importantly – be happy.

I’m no happiness guru. I am pretty cynical, I suffer from occasional bouts of depression, I’m emotionally high maintainence, and have a few suitcases full of PTSD. Years of therapy has allowed me to become high functioning although still definitely mentally ill.

But what I can say is that I do work every day to be myself and be happy.

So that is what this blog is about. It’s evolved from two other blogs where I was worried about catering to my audience too much. I was putting myself in a box. I like to provide useful information – part of what makes me happy is inspiring others. However I realized, in another lesson learned, that I inspire best when I’m showing the world they can do anything they want regardless of popular belief.

14 thoughts on “About

  1. You are an amazing person. I envy you strength any ability to speak candidly about sexuality. Thank you for being you!

  2. Hi Lola, was just visiting your sites and really like your look, attitude and overall persona. I like that you are sexually “out” as I think it takes guts to be so and I admire that. Maybe I’ll try to see you sometime.

  3. As a fellow Chicagoan Provider, I must say this is EXACTLY what society needs to start picturing us in the light we deserve; that of professional, intelligent, high class, BOSS women who are also HUMAN beings. I simply adore your blog and am thinking of starting my own now as well

    1. Thank you so much. As sex workers, we should not need to hide. There are many people in any field who do wrong, and there are many people in the sex industry that lead respectable lives. I’m glad you enjoy and hope you can make the time to send the same message. The more of us that stand up for our rights, the more power we have. Be well and safe. xoxox

  4. Love how you express yourself through your writing, you’re wickedly wise, insightful and self aware beyond your years. Keep up the captivating truth serum words pouring out. You’re teaching all of us forever learning life students.

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